Who Put the "Real" in "Reality TV"?

Something that has always confused/annoyed me is how loosely the word "reality" is used as far as television goes. It seems today that the word is just slapped onto shows that are unscripted. But how can we even compare, say, American Idol to Real World or The Bachelor to Pawn Stars?
In my opinion, the shows that seem closest to reality are ones such as Pawn Stars, American Pickers, Cake Boss, etc. These follow normal folks doing their everyday jobs. Sure, they make more money doing these jobs now than they did before they had shows, but they also seem less tampered with by producers than other "reality" shows. It seems that the only thing a producer could say is, "Why don't you go to so-and-so, USA this week?" and sends them on their way.
Shows like American Idol, Dancing with the Stars, Survivor, etc. shouldn't be labeled as reality. If there were a line between reality shows and game shows, these should definitely be on the game side. The Emmys have created a Reality Competition category in recent years, and while I don't like that it is still labeled as reality, I like that it has finally been addressed that these are competition shows. I mean, the only thing that separates these shows from Who Wants to Be a Millionaire? and Minute to Win It is that they usually take months to complete. But in the end the people contestants and are competing for a prize.
As much as competition shows being called "reality" bugs me, the ones that really aggravate me are the ones like Jersey Shore, Real World, The Bachelor/Bachelorette and so on. The producers want viewers to believe this is what life is all about. Jersey Shore wants us to believe that most New Jerseyians(?) wear clothing two sizes too small, party every single night, and fight over the same three guys to date all the time. In reality (REAL reality), these people make up a small culture of people from the state of New Jersey (that's not even true. I could be wrong but the last time I heard, only one member of the JS cast was from Jersey. Most hail from Staten Island or something). The Bachelor wants us to believe that men will fly us to some beautiful resort in Mexico for a first date and that they'll propose after a few dates. What about that is real? Put a camera in anyone's face and they will act differently than they usually do, so why would you want to be proposed to by someone you literally don't know?
I don't watch many reality shows. Project Runway and Chopped are about it for me. But again, I consider these competition shows. Just because non-actors are the stars and a script is non-existent does not make television reality.